How to build a life that holds when your mood doesn't.
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The Four Rooms model - Business, Health, Relationships, and Growth - so you stop running your life as one undifferentiated to-do list.
The non-negotiable behaviors you hold to in each room, regardless of how you feel that morning. You set each one yourself, and now it's measurable.
A nightly Plan-Do-Check-Adjust practice that closes the gap between who you said you'd be and who you actually were today.
The standard is what you do when you walk into the one you've been avoiding.
Business
The room where your inputs meet your outputs.
Health
The room where your body keeps the score.
Relationships
The room where the cost is the highest.
Growth
The engine room. The one no one checks but you.
Moods change. Standards don't.
That's the difference between being motivated and being committed. Motivation says: "I'll do it only when I feel like it." Committed says: "I do it whether I feel like it or not." Motivation is a mood. And a mood doesn't get to overrule a decision you already made.
Standards Over Moods - Chapter Two, The Mood
“Sometimes we are so focused on how far we still have left to go that we don’t realize how far we’ve come.”
- Mel Burgess
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“At a time when we were losing hope and on the verge of walking away from our business, we found Aristide.”
- Nina and Tedd Tamares
“A coach and a mentor that can hold a mirror and allow you to see yourself without being afraid of the reflection.”
- Khia Fry
“Most coaches see who you are today. Coach Aristide sees who you’re capable of becoming.”
- Sadé Mizusawa
“He taught me PDCA: Plan, Do, Check, Adjust. I plan my day the night before, so I never wonder what to do at my desk.”
- Charles Swope, Co-Owner, Swope and Thayer Financial Partners
“Coach Aristide has helped me grow as a person and leader more than any coach I have worked with in the past 24 years.”
- Chimene´ Locke
“Even though I’m sticking to a routine, it still feels like I have all the freedom.”
- Moreno A.
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Aristide not only helps you to see your potential, but to understand your worth. Sometimes we are so focused on how far we still have left to go that we don’t realize how far we’ve come. Working with Aristide helped me to not only uncover my weaknesses but to identify and operate in my strengths. Doing things like daily PDCAs and periodic Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats (S.W.O.T.) analysis helped to pinpoint where I needed to focus in order to grow in all areas of my business. If you want someone that can help you peel back the layers and get to the core of what really needs to be done to propel you forward, look no further. You’ve found it.
- Mel Burgess
At a time when we were losing hope and on the verge of walking away from our business, we found Aristide. He helped Tedd and me realize our journey wasn’t over and played a pivotal role in helping us find our way forward. After a car accident, surgeries, and challenges in our business, my confidence had suffered. I had become my own greatest doubter, questioning whether I could become the leader I envisioned. Through Aristide’s coaching, I began to rediscover my potential, develop consistency through reading, book reports, and PDCAs, bounce back faster, embrace discomfort, and most importantly, believe in myself again.
His influence has reached beyond business. One memorable reminder, “But did you die?”, became a lighthearted yet powerful motivation to stay consistent with my daily exercises and intermittent fasting. He also personally introduced us to leaders who have provided us and our team with the mentorship, support, and environment we needed to thrive. Through his guidance, we found renewed hope and a place we can finally call home.
What makes Aristide remarkable is the community he has built: a safe place to be vulnerable, challenged to grow, and supported along the way. His consistency, integrity, and genuine investment in people have earned our trust and respect. As Brené Brown illustrates through her marble jar analogy, trust is built through small, consistent actions. Aristide has certainly earned his marbles. We are still learning, growing, and becoming, but we are no longer the same people we were when we first met him. And for the difference he has made in our lives, we will always be grateful.
- Nina and Tedd Tamares
If you want a coach and a mentor that can hold a mirror and allow you to see yourself without being afraid of the reflection, this is exactly what you get in coaching with Aristide Abrahams. Through his mentorship I’ve been able to face and grow through the challenges that have stopped me and recognize and embrace the light, love and leadership that others have vocalized is inside me. The issue wasn’t that I didn’t know what I possessed, it was a fear of sharing these gifts with the world. Aristide doesn’t make you wrong or ridicule you for where you are or what you lack. His methods provide the liberation one needs to become their authentic most powerfully called self. For this gift, I am forever grateful.
- Khia Fry
Most coaches see who you are today. Coach Aristide sees who you’re capable of becoming. He is a coach who can deeply sense the inherent worth of each person, even when it doesn’t show on the surface, and who has the leadership and experience to bring it out.
On my first ever one-on-one call with Coach, I was asking his perspective on a presentation idea I had. When he asked a single question… I ended up in tears, crying like there was no tomorrow… Most coaches in that moment would have immediately written me off as a mess and a ‘project.’ Lucky for me, Coach A is not like most coaches. Not even close.
He met me where I was, while breathing belief into what I could be. He didn’t pity me, he held me capable. He gave me something to strive for. I’m positive there’s many times when he’s believed in me much more than I have in myself. That belief gave me wings.
With his guidance, I started winning… At 24, I was named the #1 builder in the state across all titles (including brokers) and ages! I started getting recognized, asked to speak at church conferences and business events, and he met me there too. He made sure I was equipped to make the most of every season.
We see ourselves least clearly, so having someone in your corner who has grown through so many life experiences and can now guide you through yours… is priceless.
Above all, Coach A is the person with THE MOST integrity I know. He leads by example and exudes abundance in EVERY area of his life: a healthy marriage, an involved family life, daily work on his health, and never-ending growth. He will never encourage you to sacrifice family or health for business. Rather than forcing you to choose, he teaches you to build the capacity for them all. That’s the fuel for self-mastery, and with self-mastery… there is absolutely nothing we can’t do.
- Sadé Mizusawa
I’ve followed plenty of people over the years, but you never expect real one-on-one coaching from them. Then I heard Aristide speak at a training I was re-engaging with, and I couldn’t unhear it.
He speaks from a different place. He isn’t going through the motions; he genuinely cares about my success and everyone he mentors. That’s what let me take my walls down.
He held the mirror up so I could see who I am and what was blocking me. Then he taught me PDCA: Plan, Do, Check, Adjust. I plan my day the night before, so I never wonder what to do at my desk. I separate my must-dos from everything else, measure my time on them, and adjust. Small habit changes became life changes.
He’s now a friend and confidant, and his wife is just as amazing.
- Charles Swope, Co-Owner, Swope and Thayer Financial Partners
I have 568 typed pages of notes since you allowed me to join the Pack. I’ve learned to read books on an entirely different level and more importantly apply it immediately in my life. Sometimes I have mentally rejected things you shared, but have learned to wait to understand your method and reasons, then the light bulb turns on, bingo, lessons learned. Coach Aristide has helped me grow as a person and leader more than any coach I have worked with in the past 24 years.
- Chimene´ Locke
One of the main reasons Standards Over Moods is a good fit for me is that I’m against routine. To me, routine feels repetitive and boring. And yet routine can be a good anchor. I was just thinking about it: if I stick to standards (the floor, the non-negotiables) and fill that in as my “routine,” I experience it differently. When I do it like that, even though I’m sticking to a routine, it still feels like I have all the freedom. Before, when I called it “routine,” I didn’t have that, and it limited me. So thanks for that! ❤️
- Moreno A.